My Long Bio...

So, I just want to mention I really hate writing f*cking bios. Writing about yourself is always a pain in the ass and these things usually end up being the biggest bullsh*t stories in the world.

Typically what happens is that, I’m supposed to make some shit up about myself, make it sound way cooler then it actually was, and then give you my credentials. Then in an act of worship you’re supposed get down on your knees and fellate my cock.

And to be honest that sounds like too much work.

To quote the Big Lebowski – I’m just a dude. And the dude abides.

I’ve always considered myself a late bloomer, which makes me laugh when I think about this profession. I wasn’t a casanova in high-school, but I did hang out with a lot of those guys. I was always the meathead friend of the guy who got laid. Yet somehow, I remained pathetically naive.

You’d think by sheer luck between playing football and wrestling, professional swing dancing, playing in bands, and having stud friends I would have no problems with girls.

Yet that was not the case, which only started to rectify itself during my senior year in high-school.

College on the other hand was completely different. I had college by the balls. For the first time in my life I felt like everything was falling into place. I became confident in my own skin and started acting in ways around girls that even surprised myself. It was one of the most empowering feelings that I have ever had.

I swept over my college campus like a hurricane – literally. I got the nickname Hurricane Joe right away.

And why wouldn’t I?! I was making up for lost time. The amount of alcohol I drank in college is probably was more then most people drink in a lifetime. I was attempting to obtain the legendary Van Wilder status.

You guys have seen Van Wilder right? There is much to learn from it if you haven’t seen it. Some of my most basic philosophies in life were born out of the silliness of that movie.

“Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere.” – Van Wilder

“You shouldn't take life to seriously. You'll never get out alive.” – Van Wilder
Call me crazy, but having a sense of humor about life is one of the most important traits that I have found to being happy…but I digress.

Back to my point, Van Wilder status was in reference to being in college for the better part of a decade. I only managed six years, but I had a good run.

But when you think about it, why would I want to leave college?! I went to a beautiful school on the coast of southern California that was filled with beautiful women. I met them by merely by going to school. Beautiful women were practically handed to me on a silver plate.

From purely a dating perspective I was crazy to leave.

Besides the women, I only actually went to class 10 hours a week, I was smart enough not to have to study, and everyone was the cool laid back Californian who enjoyed the better things in life – bonfires at the beach, Sunday afternoon BBQ’s, lazy afternoon naps in the warm sun shine, wild parties on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights, fine dining, good wine, awesome surf…

…the list goes on. In a lot of ways I think the students in my college had their priorities way straighter then most of the working world in my opinion. Carpe Diem!

So I lived it up and have no regrets.

At some point in college the “seduction community” began to emerge and while I had remained a quiet spectator since the beginning, I was too busy having a life to care about it. I was content with life, but I found it fascinating.

My post-college life was like night and day though.

Hello corporate America - Good-bye sweet sweet college life!

Actually having to work 40 hours a week put a major damper on my mood. Combine that with losing all of my social networks from college and you have one unhappy dude. And when the dude is unhappy, the dude does not abide.

I quickly came to realize that the rest of the world wasn’t like a college campus. I was in territory were people worked to the point of complete mental breakdown at jobs they hated and were too tired to enjoy too much more then a Saturday night out on the town.

Although, I had learned a great deal about women, I wasn’t meeting beautiful women on daily basis by merely going to work. It seemed like a lot more effort was required. At this point I circled back to the “seduction community” to see what it had to offer and found quite a bit of information.

At its heart it was about creating “better men and happier women”, but at its worst it was a bunch of guys on internet forums nitpicking at each other. Even scarier, I quickly came to realize it was the blind leading the blind in a lot of circumstances.

I always thought that at least the insight offered contained some significance, but never took it at face value. There was something “off” with most of it. It seemed to superficially make sense, but fundamentally come from an unhealthy perspective.

I always told my friends that I kept one foot in the door and one foot outside the door. Meaning I always tried to keep a foot in reality and the experiences that I had already had before going off the deep end and believing everything to be infallible truth.

Because in reality, I had always been around guys who had hot chicks around and they never needed anything from the community. My own experiences confirmed this for me as well. So I never saw this as a requirement for getting girls – I had managed on my own just fine.

I like to compare my experience to a pendulum effect.

When I first discovered all of this new information, I felt mildly retarded. Mostly because intuitively I understood it all, but I was shocked that I had never just figured it out so explicitly.

So realizing there was a whole different way of looking at this, I swung towards all of these new ideas and “tactics.” After reaching the peak of the arch – or the digging through all of the information in the community – you start to swing back to the middle realizing that your experiences before are just as valid as anything else.

So, the pendulum eventually rest in the middle. Meaning that I took what I new before and I took what I had learned and move forward with both my experience and relevant knowledge.

I spent my time living a successful life before the community enjoying and dating lots of girls. I went into the depths of the community and absorbed a lot of knowledge and spent enormous amounts of time working on myself in that realm. I have since come out on the other-side and wound up somewhere in the middle.

I don’t deny my past, because it brought me to where I am today. However, I do think there is so much lacking and that I needed to move on and do something new.

That’s how I fit into this puzzle with Sean and the other guys. We all had success before the community, learned what we could from it, and have since started the next evolution.

The next evolution is about passion, integrity, fun, and happiness. The next evolution is realizing that dating tons of women and threesomes are awesome and an important stepping stone, but so is a monogamous relationship.

I mentioned before the community was always about “Better Men, and Happier Women” but at some point that message got lost.

That’s where we come in. We’re here to change that by making this a healthy process that spends more time helping guys get what they want out of their relationships and teach and bigger view then the limited scope of what we have been. We want to teach all the things that we never could, because they were never part of our old syllabus.

So, yeah….

Sean wanted me to list my super power. I think most guys who know me would say that my ability to banter is extremely strong. Lance in reference to my banter skills is quoted:

“Joe is actually too good!” – Lance Mason, Founder Pickup101

Many other of my counterparts with other companies and my students as whole like to describe a strong charismatic quality that I have.

“Joe eats, shits, and breathes charisma” – Mark, Student

If you asked me though, my skills truly lie in being able to read and interpret women’s behavior, often better then even highly self aware women. Some people call it emotional intelligence, some people call it social intelligence, and some people call it intuition, but it’s all in the same vein.

I believe I am charismatic because I have a genuine curiosity about people and enjoy being social. This has driven me to become talented at this skill.

Because of being so fine-tuned with it, my abilities in other areas such as body language, kino, calling “the elephant in the room” out, and banter are significantly stronger because of it. I’ve spent as much time at bars meeting sorority girls as I have in committed happy functional relationships.

So, that’s my story. Hopefully it reflects a lot on my personality and you guys have a much better idea what I’m about. I don’t know if it captures everything, but it’s a good start. I’ve been busy lately, but in the coming months as our company starts to ramp up, you’ll be hearing more from me and perspectives on things.

Later,
Joe