FR: Friday debauchery

Aug 29th 2005

Mark, Whit, Sameer and I hit the town Friday night. Sameer and myself have been going out consistently and so have Mark and Whit so now we were combining our powers together It had been a long week for me and I was ready to blow off some steam. I live on No-Doz come Friday nights. I recommend to any working person because it will amp your energy up for the evening after a long week. But, hey it's cool if you're not a pill-popper like me.

Anyways, we knew of two big parties and were planning on doing some catching up with each other. We all meet at some Thai restaurant early. After dinner we start walking to Suite 181 for the friendster party but decide to warm up a swig.

Sameer is an approach machine and I think it threw Mark and Whit a little off when he walked in and was into set in less than 5 seconds. Having been out with Sameer I followed suite and next thing I know we are all in warm up sets. We all finish off and our first set and Sameer and Mark get into set with these two super hot chicks who are definitely the hottest girls there.

At this point we had already been in the bar for at least 15 minutes so I hung back with Whit just watching their set. It was solid. Good banter and Kino from the outside perspective. Then they started isolating the two girls. So smooth. At some point they ejected and re-joined Whit and myself. Then we told Mark to go back and close and he did. Fucking warm up set of hot girls that closed so easily and he has no intention of calling her at all! I wasn't in set so I'll let Sameer and Mark write about that one.

We ended up not going to Suite 181 nor the Levi's party due to huge lines so we all hopped in a cab up to North Beach. We went around and I personally didn't have any real memorable sets, but everyone was opening. We bounced around for awhile opening and winging with each other. I'm getting better at winging with Sameer. He had a lone wolf at the bar but her male friend walked over and looked like he might blow him out. I just engaged him and isolated him so Sameer could continue. So we finally ended up at Sip. It had been a long day and evening and the night seemed to be winding down.

Then I got a text message.

I had closed that Italian chick a few weeks before. I even called back right before one of our conference call. It was a very weak close and an even weaker call back. No attraction or banter, just lame rapport on the phone. She text messaged me to come meet her at Kell's. Booty Call?

I actually was going to go to stay with the group, but Sameer forced me to go and said they'd meet me down there later. It was already around 12:45. I get down there and she's been drinking but pumped to see me. She gets me in the door for free and gets me free drinks because she knows the bartenders.

Whit had decided to call it a night, but Mark and Sameer did show up later. They stuck around for a bit, but were going to take off. The italian chick saw them getting ready to leave and thought they would drag me away. So she starts kinoing everyone to keep us around. One of the funniest things ever! She was doing all the shit we had learned in the workshop on us like if we were ADD girls not paying attention and getting ready to leave.

Anyways, Mark and Sameer leave me with Nicole(Italian) and Nikki(her friend). At this point I haven't been running game, just drinking and dancing with the girls. Then Mark comes rolling back in. At the time I didn't know this, but apparently he had made out with Nikki before he left and had decided to come back for shits and giggles.

Well, long story short, we pull the girls back to his pad in the mission. He disappears with his girl into his bedroom and I'm out on the couch with mine. Its funny how stuff you hear starts to automatically flow now. We were messing around and my chicks breaks the flow to let me know that "we're not having sex tonight."

I just remember back to some wisdom that I heard that said, when you hear that line, it means the opposite because she is thinking about sex and throwing out last minute resistance. I just agreed with her and proceeded. She just kept saying that "we shouldn't be doing this," and that "you're bad." I just kept laughing because this stuff cracks me up when girls react exactly the way I've been told that they would.

We were having a great time but then next thing I know its about 5:30am and I just remembered that I told my parents they could use my truck at 7am to drive up to Davis, Ca and move my sister out of her college dorms. FUCK! I had to split because my truck was in North Beach and I needed to get a cab from Mission to North Beach and then try and drive from North Beach to Castro Valley before 7 am. Not cool, but I didn't have a condom, nor was I in the mood to break past more LMR, so I had to bail. Pretty sure Mark closed his girl. Good times.

UNITY! Rancid & Operation Ivy

So I went to see Rancid last night at the Warfield. I don't think the tour was for anything specific, like a new album, so it was awesome. A lot of time bands that are touring to release a 'new album' tend to ONLY play songs off of that rather than the standards that made them famous. Last night was awesome because I think Rancid played every popular song they had and then some.Even more AMAZING was something else though. I was privelaged to see the closest thing to an Operation Ivy reunion that has ever happened...

They brought Jesse up on Stage to perform 'Unity.' Although, they were missing a drummer, seeing Jesse, Tim, and Matt play unity was fucking awesome.

Operation Ivy was an innovative and great punk-ska band. They helped pave the way for many third wave ska bands. Operation Ivy was together for two years, from 1987- 1989. During that time, it was estimated that they played about 200 shows. Their music fused a blend of ska and punk. During the band's short duration, they released many seven inches and comps, and even a full length album, Energy. In 1989, the band broke up, some citing the increase in popularity and cries of sell out. However, to this day the true reason of the break-up is unknown. Operation Ivy played their last show on May 25, 1989 at their legendary club 924 Gilman Street.

Although the band is gone, people are still finding out about Operation Ivy. Records sales of Energy double every year, with estimates of about 500,000. In fact, Energy is #43 on the list of the top 50 albums to come out of California.

Since then, they have NEVER played another show - that is until last night.

I'm sure there will be some news of this somewhere. Anyways, between that and the energy of the crowd, I'd have to say that it was one of the best shows that I have seen in a long time.

FR: I'm an Idiot!

North Beach Bop Again Aug 30th 2005 Sat night

4pm Saturday afternoon after getting a few hours of sleep from the night before I'm back in North beach meeting with Sameer. We're going to the Marina pub crawl. On our way to catch a cab we notice a bunch of people dressed up like golfers. Sameer opens a 2 set of girls and apparently there is a North Beach pub crawl also taking place. They seem friendly and give us a schedule and we catch a taxi over to Marina. We got there around 4:45 and it still wasn't packed. The main downfall was that it was a free-for-all and there were no scheduled bars movements. It was just go wherever you wanted to go. So we do it to it and start opening. Hmm. People seem mildly friendly, but nothing seems to be going to well. This was some bizarro world between day and night game. People were out to be social, but they were not in super-social mood. Reflecting back, both Sameer and I are actually high energy and I think that fact might have been blowing us out of set.

To sum up the afternoon: We took a cab to Marina, ran some sets, took a cab back to North Beach, ran some sets, took another cab back to the marina, ran some more sets, and then took the bus back to north beach an ran some more sets. At about 8:15pm we decided to go get some dinner. We had a few that were ok, but too be honest we didn't really get any sets to hook.

In fact, the best set we had for the afternoon was actually on the bus ride home. I started busting on a girl for carrying like 12 shopping bags filled to the brim. Sameer and I doubled teamed her, which might have been too much. She got off at the same stop as us and Sameer closed, but it wasn't too strong. We also both opened to the two Jagermesiter girls working at one of the bars and held them for awhile. That particular set was really solid, but I didn't close because she was a little old and not hot enough for me. I believe Sameer closed his girl.

Feeling a little defeated from the afternoon we headed back to Sameer's place in North Beach to chill out for awhile. We hung out in front of the TV just mellow and get pickup of our minds. It was about 9:15 and we decided to proceed back to the bars around 10pm. About 9:45 we turned the T.V. off and turned the stereo up to get back into state. We were laughing because we couldn't decide if we needed to warm up again or not. Energy levels were definitely lacking.

We headed down to Northstar which ended up being Charlie and the Sausage factory with dumb drunk Irish guys so we took off to Amante. Its funny though because I'm pretty sure we had some sets there, but I just can't remember anything about it. Things picked back up at Amante.

We were still in the warm up mind set, so we decided to open up this huge 7 set at the bar that were standing in a big circle. I walked in an accused them of guarding the bar. As soon as I was in Sameer jumped in and we carved that set apart like a thanksgiving turkey. I had isolated 3 of them and Sameer engaged the rest. We both held the that position for about 10 minutes and then we switched around and started engaging different people. By the end we almost had two of the hotter girls isolated from the group, but it was a bachelorette party and the ones not isolated finally pulled them away when they wanted to go to another bar.

So we open ups sets all day and the best one we have is a 7 set of hot girls. WTF? Still at the bar, two even hotter chicks walk up. Sameer engages one and I the other and we isolate within 15 seconds. Both of us are running strong banter and kino after having a really good set before that put us in a good state. In set with these girls for at least 20 minutes with no distraction. They were two hair stylists from Vacaville that were partying in SF with their Boss who was putting them up at the Ritz.

The boss (older, drunk, semi-cute) comes over and completely blows us out. It's obvious that although, the two younger ones are way hotter they take complete direction from her. We both head to the bathroom and debrief on the set and then decide to go back and get rapport with the boss, Linda. This works out perfectly. She basically asks us to show them around to all the cool bars since they're form out of town.

So, we roll over to Tony Nicks which is a much older and laid back crowd. Linda, the boss digs it but the girls are looking for dancing. At this point, we are going to have to do a same night close since they are out of towners. Getting the girls drinking and in a party mood are much more likely to expedite this process. We figure we're going to have to get some guy to pawn off on Linda, but one step at a time.

So we drag them over to Kells. This was a bad move for closing them. We went from completely chill laid back mellow environment to Irish Drunk Frat Boy central. They have music and two floors with dancing, so it sounded good at the time. In hindsight, there were way too many distractions. As I'm walking in with these two chicks, I see Italian girl from the night before. She seems and gets a huge smile. It looked pimp all the way around because she saw me walk in with two super hot blondes. At this point, Sameer was managing our three set while I was trying to game Italian girl a little to keep the attraction.

I meet back with Sameer and although, we probably were doing pretty good with the two hot girls, Linda was becoming a logistical nightmare. She was not happy with the bar, despite her girls were, and she was being the party popper for them. At this point, after such a long day and weekend, Sameer was over it. I also decided to let it go and not ruin chances with the Italian girl. We eject and Sameer leaves Kells.

So, Nicole (Italian chick) is out with her friends for a b-day celebration. I immediately buy the b-day girl a shot because she was from Chico and I befriended the group. This was a good call because they made the logistical side of the rest of the night possible. More dancing, more drinking…bars lets out. Her friends invite me back over to Nicole's apartment to have a slumber party. NICE! So, its me, Nicole, birthday girl (not cute) and friend who has a boyfriend all sleeping in a tiny ass room together. The two friends crash on the bed and Nicole whips out the air mattress.

Now, the same girl who said we weren't having sex the night before is all over me and going for it with her friends passed out in the bed right next to us. Awesome.

Lesson learned: NO MATTER WHAT IS PLANNED FOR THE NIGHT BE PREPARED. I was not prepared…no condom. LAME. That will never happen again. I called it a night and passed out.

FR: Friday's Debauchery

Aug 29th

Mark, Whit, Sameer and I hit the town Friday night. Sameer and myself have been going out consistently and so have Mark and Whit so now we were combining our powers together.

It had been a long week for me and I was ready to blow off some steam. I live on No-Doz come Friday nights. I recommend to any working person because it will amp your energy up for the evening after a long week. But, hey it's cool if you're not a pill-popper like me.

Anyways, we knew of two big parties and were planning on doing some catching up with each other. We all met at some Thai restaurant early. After dinner we started walking to Suite 181 for the friendster party but decide to warm up a swig. Sameer is an approach machine and I think it threw Mark and Whit a little off when he walked in and was into set in less than 5 seconds. Having been out with Sameer I followed suite and next thing I know we are all in warm up sets.

We all finish off and our first set and Sameer and Mark get into set with these two super hot chicks who are definitely the hottest girls there. At this point we had already been in the bar for at least 15 minutes so I hung back with Whit just watching their set. It was solid. Good banter and Kino from the outside perspective. Then they started isolating the two girls. So smooth. At some point they ejected and re-joined Whit and myself. Then we told Mark to go back and close and he did. Fucking warm up set of hot girls that closed so easily and he has no intention of calling her at all!

I wasn't in set so I'll let Sameer and Mark write about that one.

We ended up not going to Suite 181 nor the Levi's party due to huge lines so we all hopped in a cab up to North Beach. We went around and I personally didn't have any real memorable sets, but everyone was opening. We bounced around for awhile opening and winging with each other. I'm getting better at winging with Sameer. He had a lone wolf at the bar but her male friend walked over and looked like he might blow her out. I just engaged him and isolated him so Sameer could continue.

So, we finally ended up at Sip. It had been a long day and evening and the night seemed to be winding down. Then I got a text message. I had closed that Italian chick a few weeks before. I even called back right before one of our conference calls. It was a very weak close and an even weaker call back. No attraction or banter, just lame rapport on the phone. She text messaged me to come meet her at Kell's. Booty Call? I actually wasn't going to go to stay with the group, but Sameer forced me to go and said they'd meet me down there later. It was already around 12:45.

I get down there and she's been drinking but pumped to see me. She gets me in the door for free and gets me free drinks because she knows the bartenders. Whit had decided to call it a night, but Mark and Sameer did show up later. They stuck around for a bit, but were going to take off. The italian chick saw them getting ready to leave and thought they would drag me away. So she starts kinoing everyone to keep us around. One of the funniest things ever! She was doing all the shit we had learned in the AoA workshop on us like if we were ADD girls not paying attention and getting ready to leave. Anyways, Mark and Sameer leave me with Nicole(Italian) and Nikki(her friend).

At this point I haven't been running game, just drinking and dancing with the girls. Then Mark comes rolling back in. At the time I didn't know this, but apparently he had made out with Nikki before he left and had decided to come back for shits and giggles.

Well, long story short, we pull the girls back to his pad in the mission. He disappears with his girl into his bedroom and I'm out on the couch with mine. Its funny how stuff you hear starts to automatically flow now. We were messing around and my chicks break the flow to let me know that "we're not having sex tonight." I just remember back to some wisdom that I heard that said, when you hear that line, it means the opposite because she is thinking about sex and throwing out last minute resistance. I just agreed with her and proceeded. She just kept saying that "we shouldn't be doing this," and that "you're bad." I just kept laughing because this stuff cracks me up when girls react exactly the way I've been told that they would.

We were having a great time but then next thing I know its about 5:30am and I just remembered that I told my parents they could use my truck at 7am to drive up to Davis, Ca and move my sister out of her college dorms. FUCK! I had to split because my truck was in North Beach and I needed to get a cab from Mission to North Beach and then try and drive from North Beach to Castro Valley before 7 am. Not cool, but I didn't have a condom, nor was I in the mood to break past more LMR, so I had to bail. Pretty sure Mark closed his girl. Good times.

North Beach Bop #3

So, this is the LAST installment in the three parts series known as the "North Beach Bops." Althought I still frequent North Beach in San Francisco, I consider the Bop Series the earlier years in my development.

So, I am going to write a really in depth FR of one set that I had. There were more from the weekend, but this one definitely was the most memorable and I think had the most to offer on the learning side.

Sameer and I, North Beach, just starting at 11:30pm at North Star. Late start, but shit happens. We walk in and open a few sets. There is a shorter latina chick. Beautiful face and nice body. Her ass was NOT small, but it was NOT a deal breaker and would be considered spectacular by Sir-Mix-A-Lot. BABY GOT BACK! Anyways, Sameer mentions as we're leaving that she gave me a few looks, but I did not see them. This is on the way out so we bail and hit up a few other spots. We sarge a bit more but eventually return.

Once again, Sameer mentions that I got some looks. Now she's off in a corner with another friend looking around the room and pointing. They were obviously people watching. I was going to go over and accuse them of that, but then get in on it. As I was observing she did make eye contact with me. Logisitics weren't the most ideal at that moment, but I saw the oppurtunity(3 second rule). So, I wait .... 1.... 2.... 3..... eh...... 4.......go! Shit! Had I gone on three it would have been cool, but by four there were guys who opened them. Whatever I fucked that up but, we scope and sarge a bit more. Next thing I know this same chick is right next to me with her back to me. Proximty IOI? I'm stumbling trying to think of a situational opener and not getting anything. Right then she flips her hair and it hits my shoulder. So I tap her on the shoulder and she turns around. I ask in an accusing tone, "Did you really just hair flip me?!" She laughs and says, "what?!" I replied, "you just flipped your hair into my face!" She laughs and has a huge smile on and totally turns to face me. I give her a look and poke her while saying, "you're trouble." She kinos me back and says, "oh my god." Her hand trails off my back so I reach down and squeeze it. I think I called her a firecracker next, and she replies with, "well I am the youngest." I shoot back, "you mean at the bar? what are you like 21?" She nods yes and I say, "yeah, well I'm not even supposed to be here because I'm like 16 and have a fake I.D.!" She laughs and says, "oh my god, you're so cool!" Then very seductively, like Selma Hayeck seductive, she says while batting her eyes, "You should call me sometime."

TIME OUT!

What the Fuck?! Now, at this point I have literally been talking to this girl less than one minute. She totally seemed to be digging me. Especially since Sameer had seen me getting some looks. She didn't sound sarcastic, but I don't know. That seemed WAY too easy! I had a split second to decide and although everything was telling me she was into me, it seemed WAY to easy and quick so....more attraction game!

GAME ON!

So I give her a look and say, "You want me to call you?! I don't even know you!" While kino-ing her at the same time. Then her body language turns away and she says, "fine, don't make out with me then."

TIME OUT!

What the Fuck?! Whoa! Something just happened there. Maybe I just overgamed her. Wait a fucking second, maybe this chick is drunk, but holding it together well. I had talked to a lot of girls that were really intoxicated and horny, but were still very composed. Sometimes I forget that most people (99.9%) who go to bars are actually drinking and becoming intoxicated. This actually reminds me of my old (not so old) college days when I just caved manned chicks. I have heard this line before. Usually it occured when you missed the moment the chick was ready to be kissed and she had to verbalize it. Almost always this is a death blow, but if you quickly take
action you can recover. In then end the chick still wants it and you can be aggressive and save face and the sarge.

GAME ON!

Time to cave man this little hottie! I do a very quick back turn, then slide my arm around this chick's waist and pull her in close.

SIDE NOTE: When going for the make-out I have always done the hitch method. I will go in 90% and let the girl come the last 10. SO, I go in 90%.........AND.......she turns her face away. DENIED! FUCK!

It was a very ballsy move that has worked for me before, but not this
time.

ANOTHER SIDE NOTE:I think its funny that I won't really hesitate with something like this, but I stil get approach anxiety.

The best part of this whole thing. Sameer was less than 2 inches away to witness this whole thing! This was a very funny blow out.

I immediately ejected the entire bar! I had to go outside and run around the block once and then do 50 push ups just to fucking calm down. I wasn't pissed or even hurt. Its more like getting to the last level on a video game and then dying at the very end. You know that it just takes one little thing to fuck up the whole game even
though you got so far.

Sameer had a chance to talk to her right after for the debrief. At first we thought she was fucking with me and that she had a boyfriend. She did mention that her boyfriend was at the bar. Sameer bought off on it at first until he saw them together. they didn't seem like a couple and he seemed to think it was just an excuse. I had to agree after watching her walk out with him.

In hindsight, I think it was a TEST. The main indicator was that we did NOT share a moment where I hestitated and did not go in for the kiss. I think that she was being overly (almost indetectably) sarcastic about making out when I told her I didn't even know her in response to her asking me to call her.

I think I probably did have attraction. I also think she was probably serious about wanting me to call her. I don't think I overgamed, because she wasn't upset, I think she she just called my bluff with a test.

I will definitely be asking Lance about this one.

Joe "Very happy about getting some quality problems" Brody

North Beach Bop #2

I believe this FR was Saturday night of the same weekend as North Beach Bop #1.

Hit the town with Sameer again. Big props to Sameer for noticing I was locked up (Approach Anxiety) in this swank joint early in the night. He forced me into Kells (college-esque scene)which got me going. I didn't do too many sets, but had some interesting ones. I'm still having problems starting off the night.

Set#1
This really wasn't a set because it was a bunch of dudes, but they tried AMOGing me so I felt I should include it in the field report. I was sitting at the bar and this guy walks up to order a drink and says thatI my hair looks like the drummer from Green Day. Well, I play drums, like green day, and even like tre cool, the drummer. SO I responded with "hey thanks man." He looks at me funny and says that it wasn't a compliment and I responded with, "Rock N Fucking Roll!" in a I don't give a fuck kind of voice. He really didn't know what to do, but he was drunk. He's telling me he hates punks and I just agree with him. He didn't really know how to respond because I looked like a fucking rock star and assumed I'd be pissed. Still not giving much of a shit, I act like a hot chick and half pay attention to him. Next thing I know he starts qualifying himself...WTF?!?! Guys are so retarded and I finally understand why we all have such a huge advantage. He starts telling me he hates house-mates that are punks and that they don't respect his shit and that I should come by his gym, etc etc. His buddies join in and the whole group started to qualify themselves. Weird, but interesting situation.

Set#2
We leave and head over to Kells because I needed a change of vibe. I see this 3 set and just opened with a situational question. They open right away. I was there with Sameer and one other buddy and so we all engage. Not the best plan, but this was still a warm up. I start vibing with the girl I opened. She's a full-blooded italian girl, so I bust on her for being a firecracker. I bring her friends in on it. It was super easy to bust because she fit the typical over- emotional firey italian girl and her friends confirmed that. Set got blown when they went to get more drinks, but she told me that she would come find me later. She did. After some game playing she dragged me out on the dance floor. I got a few tricks up my sleave for dancing and got fairly sexual with her quickly. Kino got very heavy. Guys...one of the best moves you can do. If you're close and bodies are touching and totally vibing, then reach up and put her hair behind her ear. This is just a test to see how comfortable she is. If she's cool with it go on, if not, you'll need to back off. If she's cool bring her closer to you. Then take your hand and slide it up her back to the back of her head so that your hand is in her hair. Then make a fist with your hand. This basically pulls her hair, but does so in a fairly gentle way. While doing this, pull her head back gently and lean down to smell her neck right under her ear. This is a very sexual move and will advance the sarge significantly. Anyways, I did this manuever and this prompted some hardcore grinding. Not wanting to waste my night with her the whole time, I told her I had to bounce. She quickly asked for my number. Nioce! She even texted messaged me at about 12:30am that same night.

Set#3
After the italian chick went to get drinks, I noticed my buddy in a two set, so I jumped in. I engaged the whole group with, "are these girls giving you trouble?" He seemed to be interested in the brunette so I engaged the blonde. I asked in a mildly accusing way if she was a marina girl and she was NOT pleased with that. I followed up with the credo, but this chick was NOT having it. She just said, "What the fuck are you talking about?" In hindsight, I think she was lower self-esteem and I over gamed. This would have been the time to bust out the handshake and say, "my bad, I was just trying to be cool, I'm Joe," but I forgot. Oh well. I bounced after I closed the italian girl to Amante.

Set#4
Sameer and my buddy were in a seated two set and next to them was an even hotter 2 set. I opened them with another situational. They were at a table and sitting along the wall, so I sat in the empty seats across from them. When they answered I couldn't hear them at all, so I got up and sat right next to one of them. I had my back to sameer and then followed up with that I was going to hang out with them until my buddy was done gaming his girls, while nodding to sameer. They laughed at that and we went straight into banter. I busted one girl from being from the OC and they other from being from NY. I ran the marina girl credo, which they LOved! This was a really cool conversation and I had them laughing and hi-fiving me a lot. They both ended up having boyfriends (I think?!) so I stayed in getting some social proof until I saw another set.

We bounced over to Northstar which was awesome last night, but NOT happening tonight. I think I was partly hoping to see the 12th grade teacher, but there were hardly any chicks there in the first place, let alone any hot ones that looked like Kirstin Dunst. I've decided these places are fickle and you just need to hunt around until you find out where the action is going on at. Anyways, so we headed back to Amante where we had just walked out of. There were a few sets, but not too many. My buddy opened a few, but he's got a long way to go with his game and they got blown very very quickly. I went back to the two set, with boyfriends and was just hanging out.

Set#5
My buddy finally scored two chicks that wanted to go get Pizza! I was pumped until we got outside and they were old and NOT too hot. We hop in line at Golden Boy and are just vibing. Once again I defintiely got slated into the young punk rocker category. So I blew there socks off when I told them that eventually I want to be a kindergarten teacher. They went from bitchy girls, shit testing the hell out of me to totally sweet sophisticated ladies. The identity that is opposing Rockstar/Kindergarten Teacher is much much more powerful than I had originally thought. Two nights in a row, that has had very powerful results. After attraction that is definitely where I need to go. It works way better since tonight I was trying to do the rockstar look.

I didn't open half as many sets as the night before, but they were much longer sets so it was a trade off. I still want to try and get 100 sets in before the Day Game workshop...we'll see. Looks like I need to start warming up early so I am hot starting around 9pm rather than not hitting my groove until around 12am. Starting off is still a sticking point for me. I need to really dial in what gets me in the right state to game. Anyone else having trouble? I also didn't do street warms ups this time. That may have been the problem. I did however go for banter and kino much much quicker which was one of my goals. YEah!

One step at a time I guess.

North Beach Bop #1

This was one of my first FR's after I took the Art of Attraction course back in August of 2005.

I named this north beach bop #1 because I expect to be going there a lot. Also, I had more sets then mentioned, but only included ones that I remember and might have something to offer the group for learning.

Onto the Field Report: Sameer went to the Dave Matthews concert atSBC and was going to meet me at Momo's across the street after. I got there around 9:45 and concert was going strong, so he took off to meet me. We hung out there waiting for the huge influx of people from the concert to show up after. We had a couple warm up conversations with people, but there weren't too many sets. Also wenoticed that this place, although a bar at night, was more of a daygame energy level so we were a little too high energy.

Memorable Set #1: Standing next to the portbale heaters in an outdoor patio draws chicks like a bugzapper draws flys. Anyways, girls roll up and standnext to us at the heaters and I open with, "Hey, this spot costs money! This is prime retail estate." Girl ktouches me immediately by putting her arm around me and saying "lets negotiate." I immediately respond back with, "hey, I'm talking about money...I don't know whatyou were thinking."

Although, this seemed good at the time, I think she was put off that I brushed off her physical advance. Inretrospect she was cute, but definitely had a low self esteem vibe. She took her hand off me and made some comment about never hearing that EVER before. At one point the girl told some story about her bestfriend and how she was awesome or something. Sameer and myself had sort of isolated the two but were going nowhere quick with the set. We totally lost them when I said it was a special moment and that they should hug. I was just being silly, but this was their oppurtunity to girl code and bounce.

Lesson learned: It was unnecessary to bring the girls back together after we had already isolated them.

We had a few more short sets that didn't really go too far and aren'tworth mentioning. We decided about 11pm that we needed to move on because everyone coming to the bar was wasted and too ADD to chat with. So we hopped on a bus to North Beach. We hit a few bars and Sameer closed one girl. He will have to tell you about that. Then we hit Northstar. I like this place a lot. One block from SF Mansion and a total college scene...my style.

Memorable Set #2: I open a mixed 3 set(2girl, 1guy) with "two girls making out." I broke the bubble successfully and got them to hook, but I was talking too quick and not interacting enough because I was just plowing. I definitely need to check in a little bit more. I also didn't banter off their responses or Kino enough. Due to the noise the second girl and guy of the set backturned and isolated me with the first girl. It would have been good, but I was having trouble bantering because her answer bored the fuck out of me. Ejected. I know I could have busted out she was being too logical, but oh well.

Memorable Set #3: Lonewolf at the juke box. Sameer actually opened, but I entered at one point and he took off. This set went well because I slowed everything down - and actually made it a REAL interaction. When I did talk it was slower, posture was close to her but leaning back, and there were long pauses with eye contact that felt pretty intense. The girl ultimately was very friendly and drunk. She was ready to be cave-manned. Stayed in for about 15 minutes getting some rapport and she was into me. It seemed silly to stay any longer because the next step was to make out, which she was ready for, BUT I was here to gain a skill set and not lay pipe. So I ejected.

Memorable Set #4: HOT HOT 12th grade history teacher. I have no idea how old she was, but I do know she was a hot version of kirstin dunst - spectacular body. Once again, Sameer opened the 2 set with some situational opener. He probably called them the "bathroom girls" because they were waiting in line. She told me she was a teacher, so I told her that I want to be a kindergarten teacher(actually true). I used to be a swim teacher and I told her this funny story: "This little 3.5 yr old girl came to my swim class very upset. She told methat her mom had just informed her that she would not be able to marry her older brother...BECAUSE if they had kids, their kids would NOT have elbows." I didn't think it was that cool, but she was really into it. I should have done the hand grab at this point for kino. She got dragged into the bathroom with her friend immediately after and set was blown.

Later, I was in another set and saw her walking by and grabbed her hand and squeezed. She squeezed back, smiled, and trailed her fingers...Nioce! Then I went ADD and left the bar to go to another bar. In retrospect, I should have gone back and attempted get some rapport and close because I had attraction and a little rapport already. That will be the regret of the night.

We bounced back and forth between a few more bars, but didn't find too many sets. SO we called it a night.

Thoughts:

-This shit is hard to get back into the groove of. Once I get going I am usually fine, but starting off seems more difficult. I did warmup sets which helps with talking, but I think I need "banter warm up"too because I tend not to do that right away, which is why my earlysets didn't go anywhere.

-I am going to need to figure out a few basic wing tactics. Sameer and I weren't bad and didn't have any real miscommunication, but its clear that we will need to establish some for the future.

-I break the bubble well, which signals to me my intial body languageis solid and congruent. I am thinking that I should try some moredaring Kino like throwing my arm around girls, etc. I think thiswill up the attraction level without having to banter as much. Why say something when you can do it.

-I need to banter/kino within 20 seconds and in general I need to SLOW the fuck down.

LR: The Saddle Rack! (never again)

Aug 6th Saddle Rack – a.k.a. worst night ever

So, let me tell you what a bad night consists of. Going to the saddle rack in Fremont when there are 4-6 bacherlorette parties, tons of hot chicks, and not being able to run any sets because you're stuck jumping the grenade for a buddy who's trying to hook up with a 5! And just to be able to cope with the above situation you need to get drunk which only aggravates the situation.

Bro's before Ho's I guess....

I also realized that you either need to go out alone or with guys who are strictly sarging. On that note...who's down for the Saddle Rack in Fremont next weekend?

Later,
Joe "I jumped ALL over the grenade...like all over her stomach" Hurricane

FR: First Night out After AoA

FR: marina Thursday night

Aug 5th 2005

Hey guys! Here's my little FR. I hit the Marina up with my buddy who is a natural. Saw Ben, Steve, Vince & Matador out there. They have a have all done the workshop so it was a good time. Anyways, I did my warm up sets on the streets and hit the matrix first. My first set was a lone wolf HBblonde at the bar. I opened her with two girls making out/cheating routine. For those of you that haven't heard it…"Two girls making out, one has a boyfriend… does it count as cheating?" I will then follow up with a store about my Christian "friend" who is dating this hot party chick who makes out all the time with her friends. Well, it’s usually a fun and little playful thing, but this chick gave me a thesis quality answer on it. I busted her on being too logical, but she wasn't in a playful mood it seemed. She ordered her drinks and brought them back to her friends. But then she came walking back, reengaged me, and accused me of being the "friend" that I referred to in my story. NICE! It was on like Donkey Kong now. We had some really good banter going and I was kino-ing her a lot. I used the marina girl credo routine on her. She accused me of being an LA guy, etc. We keep the banter going lightly but were definitely moving into rapport. Things were going as planned.

THEN, out of nowhere the COCKBLOCK of the century comes stumbling into the set. It's this drunk softball player looking lesbo chick, UGlesbo, who had been eyeing me all night. She busts in telling me that I look like a backstreet boy. Ok….back to banter.

Well, it actually worked in my favor for awhile because the UGlesbo was asking me all kinds of rapport questions that I had been playfully talking to the HBblonde about. My responses were total lies that were funny to HBblonde because she knew I was full of shit. I just took a hot chick frame and ran with it. Then UGlesbo starts engaging my target who is starting to wig out because it was socially an uncomfortable situation. Stage left, next enter the HBblonde's friend HBfriend. Now, this is when I lost all control because HBfriend was drunk and just as sloppy and UGlesbo. She takes over the set from UGlesbo (good thing) but starts qualifying me. I go back into banter which, HBblonde is loving, but HBfriend doesn't know what to do with. Now, UGlesbo is trying to get back into the mix and I have a barrage of questions that I am trying to tactfully defend off from HBfriend and UGlesbo. HBblonde is still in set and enjoying the fact that I am being literally attacked, but it was going nowhere fast. My buddy saw this happening and literally dragged me out of it!

Next, the City Tavern. Vince (PU101 intern) opened this two set and asked me to wing with him. I let him open and waited. I was really waiting for him to build up the attraction and let it get to a peak before I entered set. I was just watching the energy of the group and waiting for it to peak. I waited about 5 minutes (it seemed forever) and busted in with, "Are these girls giving you trouble?" Earlier he had told me that the blonde was his target, but he switched it up and went for the brunette. I did an AWESOME job isolating the blonde leaving him isolated with the brunette girl. I figured it'd practice my attraction material and if I ran out, just go into rapport to keep her busy until Vince had closed. Same shit as before. Ran two girls making out, my story, marina girls credo, library girl banter. Ran out of canned stuff and was bullshitting and going for some rapport. After about 20 minutes she realized that Vince and I had completely split the two girls apart. The blonde did a pull away to the brunette to get more drinks at the bar…my bad. Tried to stop it, but to no avail. Vince went for the number close, but it was unsuccessful. I went in and out of a bunch more sets, but none worth mentioning at this point because I'm too tired to continue on with a longer FR.

Although I did see Ben go into this narly 3 set sitting down at the Matrix. And by narly I mean, hot chicks in a difficult logistical opening location. He was even AMOGed and seemed to handle it exceptionally well. It looked solid from where I was at. WTF happened?

Hitting North Beach soon. More to come.

(Added: The North Beach trip is chronicled in the North Beach Bop Series)

Joe "The frat boy" Hurricane

FR: The Second One!

FR: Crogan's

From August 2004

SO, I had been sarging at Walnut creek a few weeks ago. Waiting in line at a kool club, my buddy opened up some girls. Turns out one of them had went to same college as myself and we had a lot in commmon. After NO-effort, we continued conversation and I came to the point of wanting her phone number(not as a sexual target), but as someone I wanted to hit the bars up with again. Her sister(who was with her) totally cock-blocked me, and blew me out. It was a loss, but no real biggie. Her sister was at least a 9.5 and had solid chick game herself and knew what was up. It was annoying but it wasn't a huge deal. Fast worward to tonight.

I spot who I thought was HBsister. Not really bothering I proceed to game every other attractive chick in the bar. Finally towards the end of the night, I decide I want to confront her about the blow out in a fun social way. My wing is sitting at the bar and she is next to him. I roll up and engage my wing. I brush up against her and turn my head ot engage over the shoulder. I open with a long gaze and......"hey, didn't you have the sister that went to cal poly?" Well, apparently I fucked up and it wasn't the same chick. But she proceeeds to berate me about "bumping" her and not apologizing. NOT that I supplicated, but immediately after when she gave me a harsh look after brushing her, I said, "my bad."

The part that pissed me off.....I was extremely mad at myself because I let this 9.5 berate me about brushing up against her and not apologizing for it. In any other social context besides "pickup" it would be considered a slight social miscue. Yet, this girl made an issue out of it. Yet she was obviously attracted to me, otherwise she would not have spent the time "lecuturing" me. I fucked up by trying to argue "logically" about what had happened and her frame had overpowere mine. In hindsight, I know what needs to happen, but i felt powerless at the time. FUCKING chick tests. ANyone have any good advice on them?

Joe

Sorry for the confusing field report...its late.

FR: The First One!

FR: Sat night o’kearneys Walnut Creek

July 5 2004

Hey guys, this my first field report and I'm welcome to any adviceand criticism. Went out with a group of friends to Walnut Creek and ended up at O'Kearny's for the first time. I was amazed by the club itself…so bad and sleazy that it was almost cool. I'm not used to full on airport style metal detectors at clubs, let alone in Walnut Creek. If guys are planning on sarging in Walnut Creek I recommend hitting there first for your warm up sets, or even for the whole night. It's hard not to feel superior relative to the company yet, there were plenty of attractive chicks. The best part was that everyone was afraid to talk to girls early in the night. You can't wait too long though because by the end of the night the liquid courage had kicked in and the cave-manning had started. This is the story at a lot of places, but it seemed way exaggerated at this particular bar.

Anyways, relative to the nicer bars and even rock n roll clubs I have been going to lately, this place was a freak show. Lots of "dirty old men" sitting around the dance floor just gawking at the ridiculously hot, but "just 21" chicks dancing. If you even have decent game chicks will love you relative to the "normal" crowd. That being the case I decided I would open their opinion about the club and why they would come to a establishment that seemed pretty this awful(BTW, most said the music).

I Opened a two set of girls walking by that had been dancing on a platform together. I negged them because this scary old man with one of the most amazing mullets I have ever seen had hopped on there and started grinding on them.

Joe: You two get my super rocking high-5 for the night(give her a high-5)

HBlatina: Oh thanks

Joe: Yeah, you and mullet man make a great couple
(she was a ditz and totally missed the neg)

HBlatina: thanks for the compliment(completely fucking serious)

They walked off after that, but I reopened later when I was leaning with my back against the bar. She was dancing next to me and sort of bumped me, so I turned to her:

Joe: excuse me, could you not bump me (completely serious)
(when I turned around I bumped her pretty hard)

HBlatina: hey!
(laughing)

HBlatina: hey you gave me a compliment earlier

Joe: If that's the way you want to look at it HAHAHA

More BS talk that I don't remember, but I seen a HB8.5 right behind her waiting to get to the bar. We were sort of being assholes because there were a lot of people trying to get drinks, and we just posted with our backs to the bar taking up valuable ordering space.

HB8.5: Hey, do you think you could let me take your spot real quick?

Joe: I don't know…the best spot at a bar is against the bar, and to be honest I don't even know you.

HB8.5: I promise I'll give it back…I'm a girl, you can trust me!

Joe: HAHAHAHA, I should trust you because you're a girl?!

HB8.5: hahaha

HB8.5: Well, if you don't move, I'll move you!
(Proceeds to squeeze in next to me and push me out)

Joe: You know I was just about to open up to you and make a real connection…and what happens, you go and an STEAL the spot from me (I said it very dramtically and then I turned around and shut her down)

She re-engages me by stroking my chin and using her hand to turn my head back towards her

HB8.5: (whispers into my ear) don't worry sweetheart you can trust me

(I looked her dead in the eye, then looked her up and down with a suspicious face and turned away…)

That was really powerful body language and had an immediate reaction that got the "I can't believe he just fucking did that look." I just continued talking with the female friends I had walked in with. She re-engaged me again the same way as before….

HB8.5: I can't believe you're talking to her…you're already cheating on me

Joe: You know what, you're trouble aren't you…I think we need to end this conversation right now…you're a predator…a sexual predator!

I couldn't even finish sexual predator routine because she was laughing so hard. I keep up the frame that she was trouble for awhile and told her that our relationship wasn't working out. That also got a great reaction and she just kino-ed me more and more. She had been trying to dance with me while waiting for her drink the whole time. So I brought that up.

Joe: You know, if you wanted to dance with me you just have to ask… we don't need to play games.

HB8.5: I already did (with a sly smile and walks out to the dance floor with Ug friend)



It was On for sure…

Wasn't ready to leave my spot at the bar, because it was still early and I was supposed to be hanging out with my friends, not closing on a chick so I didn't follow. Figured I'd make her wait anyways.

Sarged a few other sets that came by the bar, but mostly bullshitted and caught up with my friends. On the way out, I figured I would take a scan of the dance floor and see what would happen. Found her right by the platform by herself and she grabbed me by the front of my shirt and start grinding me hard. Danced with her like that for awhile. Tried for a tongue-down because I was getting that vibe, but she backed off, so I bit her neck and pulled her hair gently. She moaned when I did that and ran her nails down my back and told me that I was trouble. Got a lot more intense physically, but I didn't go for the tongue-down again because I was thinking about how I should get her digits from here because I needed to leave with my ride. It was just escalating physically and I didn't want to stop that at the time. Handed her my cell phone and told her to be creative. This situation was extremely difficult because we were on a LOUD dance floor and could hardly hear each other. She put something in, but when I was walking out I realized she forgot to hit save. I went back in and she was dancing with someone else. I made her tell it to me this time and entered it myself… she paused for a second during the last 4 numbers. I thought that she might have given me a fake number and called her on it and said I didn't want it if it was fake. She insisted that it was real. This was happening as she was climbing onto one of the elevated platforms and was awkward. I wasn't convinced it was real and asked her Ug friend because I didn't want to save it if it was fake. She pulled her phone out and confirmed it was real. I walked out after that.

Called the number today and the "line was not in service."

Not sure if it was a fake, or something was up with her phone. I don't think her friend was lying when she said it was real, but who knows. No worries either way though. I'll try it later, but if not I can chalk that one up to experience.

If anyone wants to sarge out in Walnut Creek I'm down.

Later
Joe

The Blog...

So, I decided to finally start a blog. Rather than to start now and continue forward, I think it would be fun to post old FRs, stories, and rants. I have kept many from the last 2 years and I think it's valuable to keep and let other guys read. So it begins...

Joe